Love...marriage...babies

It's amazing to me how a baby can completely alter a relationship between his or her parents. When you find out your pregnant, it's all about excitement and love and making plans for your family to expand. Then you plan and shop and enjoy all the wonder of pregnancy. Some of the sweetest moments in my marriage occurred when Jeremy would rub my belly or talk to his baby while I slept. Then the baby comes and you are both overjoyed and instantly in love all over again. I felt so close to my husband in those first moments that we spent crying and getting to know our new baby (x2). It seems like you are going to be that happy and blissful forever. Fast forward 3 months down the road when you are both sleep deprived, swimming in baby gear, smelling like spit up and getting pooped and peed on daily. Now reality has set in and you start to stress even more about finances, and planning for the future- you think about will's and college educations and new expenses on the grocery bill. It can really put a strain on things. Your sex life seems non existent for a while and sleep sounds like a gift from the Gods! Its so crazy to me, that one event that you look so forward to can be so life altering. My husband and I adore our babies, and would not rethink the decision to expand our family even for a moment, but we would both be lying if we said that our little bundles and our older kids as well, did not change us. I guess when you are a pair, you are the most important thing to one another, and then when this little person is added to the mix, you are not the most important thing anymore. Their needs come first. I have neglected to cook a meal or two for the hubs, but you can bet my babies are always fed. I guess its just what happens. And, I really think men have the biggest issue with the change. Not to take away from my husband at all, because I think he is a fabulous father, but I really think they can find themselves somewhat displaced when they are not the one and only focus anymore. This leads me to my theory that its the first baby in a relationship that executes the biggest change. I think once you get through that and learn to adjust and live as 3 or 4 or whatever, that the next babies are not such a dramatic addition.

I am not entirely sure where all my babbles come from today, but I guess I am sitting back and looking at how much Jeremy and I have changed and evolved over the years. We are taking the time now, to get back to us, and make our marriage the best that it can be. At the root of it all is love, and that's me and him. Jeremy is my match, for better or worse, we vowed our lives to one another and if there is one thing I have learned in the years we have been together-particularly since the babies- we are committed to one another and will fight to the death for each other. I have never felt as loved as I do since I met J, and I could not imagine my life without him.
TTFN :)